A Visit to the Byodo-in Temple

The breeze. The heat. The sound of the chirping birds. The gong. The calm. The temple.

I am in the presence of it all.

Since youth, I have always been drawn to temples. Lately, wherever there is one — no matter which country I visit — I want to go see it! Perhaps, I am open to the idea of being a Buddhist one day.

Composure Coaching Blog: A Visit to the Byodo-in Temple

Finding Flow: A Visit to the Byodo-in Temple, Oahu, Hawaii

Being in the presence of calmness is what brings me peace and joy. I feel I am in unity with the universe. Everything is perfect.

During these moments, there is no “time”; or that, together, time and space are one. One monumental hollow mass. Though I may be describing this mass as hollow, make no mistake. It is anything but hollow!

Composure Coaching Blog: A Visit to the Byodo-in Temple

Finding Flow: A Visit to the Byodo-in Temple, Oahu, Hawaii

 

 

 

I have allowed my mind and body to enter a meditative space. In this meditative space, I feel alive and energized. I can feel myself simply being… all the while soaking up sparks of energy of life’s fulfillment and abundance… all from this one monumental hollow mass!

 

 

 

 

 

Composure Coaching Blog: A Visit to the Byodo-in Temple

Finding Flow: A Visit to the Byodo-in Temple, Oahu, Hawaii

And where and what exactly is this temple I am in?

Well, “honouring over a century of tradition, tranquility, and legacy,” the Byodo-in Temple – a non-practicing Buddhist Temple — is situated on Oahu, Hawaii.

It is a beautiful place. For those of you planning to visit Oahu, Hawaii or if you’re looking to gain a sense of serenity, I highly recommend a visit to the Byodo-in Temple.

Are there any sanctuaries or monumental establishments that give you peace and joy and that you may frequent?

Do share with us on Instagram @composurecoaching, so we may all learn from you some new and interesting places.

I also help my clients discover joy and find flow.  If you feel there is anything that is holding you back in finding flow in your daily life — whether that may be leading and motivating your team at work, or taking your business to the next level, or it may be finding it challenging to go out and socialize — as your coach, I can provide a process that will connect you with your strengths and your true capacities to move forward.

If there’s something that you’d like to bring into your life, I’d like to help you!

Connect with me via email to book your free consultation today.

~Audra~

How Lisa broke through her biggest limitation!
How Lisa broke through her biggest limitation!

How Lisa broke through her biggest limitation!

I want to share with you an amazing story from coaching practice… the story of Lisa.

Do you ever feel stopped from doing the things you want? It’s hard.

Sometimes we don’t know what’s stopping us.
Other times we know exactly what’s stopping us.
Either way, we have been stopped!

Lisa came to coach with me. She felt her life had shrunk down and become really small. The reason is that she was separated from her city by a huge bridge. It used to be no problem. But six years ago, she found herself unable to cross that bridge.

Since then, she has suffered from the feeling of limitation and isolation.

We started coaching together, and I asked her whether she knows why she stopped crossing the bridge.

Her answer was “I know exactly when I stopped crossing my bridge… when my husband passed away six years ago.”

“Wow,” I thought. “How am I going to help her?”

As we coached, we discovered an emotional holdback that was the real reason why she had trouble crossing the bridge.

Here’s why: she used to cross that bridge to visit her husband when he was very sick in the hospital. And when he passed away, suddenly, she didn’t want to cross over the bridge again. She avoided it, and over time, she stopped ever driving beyond her own town. And then it became a permanent pattern she couldn’t change.

But through the power of coaching, she was able to make a new decision.

Since her aha moment, Lisa has been able to drive over the bridge. For 6 years, she was unable to do this — but now, she can. In fact, she decided to challenge herself and visit the hospital she was avoiding — a way to honour herself — for her own courage and strength to drive out — and to honour her late husband for his love and connection as well as strength and courage in their marriage.

Is there something that you really want to do, that for some reason seems impossible? It might not be as difficult as what Lisa went through. Or, it might be.

Whatever it is for you, I help my clients to discover what is holding them back. By releasing the tension of your emotional holdback, you’ll discover that you have abilities you didn’t think you had.

Nobody can do this for you. But as your coach, I can provide a process that will connect you with your strengths and your true capacities.

If there’s something that you’d like to bring into your life, I’d like to help you!

This week I have three free coaching sessions available where I will help you break through whatever is limiting you, so you can experience the things you want in life.

This is a free consultation I offer people in my community like you – and I hope you will join me. There’s no obligation, you’ll have a clear vision for how to create more joy in your life.

Email me and we’ll set a time.

~ Audra ~

Sometimes, time doesn’t heal all wounds.

 

Sometimes, time doesn't heal all wounds.

Sometimes, time doesn’t heal all wounds.

Have you ever heard of the phrase that “time heals all wounds”? Sometimes it’s absolutely true – and sometimes it’s not! Sometimes something that happened long ago can be creating a block for your relationships today.

Let me tell you the story of Jennifer.

Jennifer came to me for coaching wanting to improve her relationship with her son Bobby, who was in his twenties. She was often sad not seeing him very often, and they didn’t talk much. This often made her sad.

I asked her “do you ask Bobby to spend time together?”
She said, “No. I think he’s too busy.”

I asked, “I understand. But is there something that is holding you back from asking him?”

Tears filled her eyes, and she started to share about the passing of her 4-month-old baby girl, 20 years ago.

I thought, “That is a long time! I can see how her daughter’s death may affect the relationship with Bobby.”

I learned that Jennifer had decided long ago not to share about her daughter’s death. She didn’t want to make people feel uncomfortable. This had prevented her from sharing some of her emotions with her loved ones, and made her feel inauthentic. It may have created a barrier in her relationship with Bobby.

As we were coaching, Jennifer had an aha moment.

“I’m realizing that I never got to grieve for my daughter. I accepted everyone’s opinion that I just had to move on. And I think I left some of my emotional range behind as well. But I see now how this may have, over time, created a wall between me and Bobby.”

I suggested that she ask Bobby to do something with her that week. She agreed.

When we met the next week, Jennifer and Bobby had spent more time together than in the last six months combined. “It’s like we have a whole new relationship” she said!

Is there something that is holding you back from having connection or a better relationship with someone you love?

I’d like to help you the way I helped Jennifer. If there’s a relationship in your life that would benefit from more joy and togetherness, I hope you’ll contact me for a free Joyful Parent™ Coaching Session.

This is a free consultation I offer people in my community like you – and I hope you will join me. There’s no obligation, you’ll have a clear vision for how to create more joy in your life.

Email me to book your free consultation.

~Audra~

A Coaching Story: How Fred learn to motivate his remote team.
A Coaching Story: How Fred learn to motivate his remote team.

A Coaching Story: how Fred learned to motivate his remote team.

Are you in management and have a team under your lead? Does it feel like pulling teeth getting your team to produce results?

Let me share Fred’s story.
Fred is the Manager of Operations at his workplace. He came to me for coaching wanting to be able to motivate his team and to work on his communication.
I asked Fred why he wants this… “Do you feel that your team is not motivated?”
Fred’s answer, “No, they’re not. They’re not motivated!”
“Why do you think that?”
Fred went on to tell me more… ‘Every time I asked how they are doing that week, their response is always the same. They answer “good” or “okay”. They never say much. And I want to grow the team, but I can’t… because I haven’t been able to let them take on some of the tasks I’m doing… I want to be able to rely on some of the current team members to teach the junior members.”
He also further explained that there had been some restructuring in the company and there is a lot of uncertainty amongst the staff.
My next question was, “Fred, have you ever asked your team members where they see themselves in the future with this company?”
“No,” Fred responded.
“No? Why haven’t you asked that question”
“Oh, I never thought to ask them that. Plus, I don’t think they want to tell me much of anything. I can see that would be a great question.”
As we coached, we discovered an emotional holdback that was the real reason why Fred didn’t want to ask his team questions. He was afraid that he might be imposing on others if he asked too many questions.
This may have been Fred’s A-ha moment.
The truth is, this has been happening at home as well… Fred didn’t always check in with his wife to see what she was interested in doing, nor have they sat down together to have a conversation to compare dreams of their future. All along, they have been coasting through life together.
Can you relate?
Fred recognises that he didn’t have the skill or the habit to check in with those close to him – his wife or his team – where they are currently at and check to see what they might need in terms of his support. Previously, Fred ended up feeling like he was stuck and felt that he couldn’t motivate his team, when, in fact, he didn’t have the communication skill.
With this realization, Fred made a change. He reported during his next Coaching session that he got some great responses from asking his team members, individually in their meeting, the question of where they see themselves 2 and 5 years from now. All his team members really explored their future with the company and felt excited and even motivated about their work.
As we continued coaching, Fred had chosen that week to go to work on scheduling a conversation with his wife to talk about what she wants to see in their marriage together.
To his surprise, both he and his wife had a lot of fun talking about their future together.
They looked at buying their next property — its location, the size of the property, number of bedrooms, layout of the house!
Their next home is now in the plans and Fred’s relationship with his wife has become more connected.
Is there something that you don’t want to ask or communicate and it has become a habit in your life?
Whatever it is for you, I help my clients to discover what is holding them back. By releasing the tension of your emotional holdback, you’ll discover that you have abilities you didn’t think you had.
Nobody can do this for you.
But as your coach, I can provide a process that will connect you with your strengths and your true capacities.
If there’s something that you’d like to bring into your life, I’d like to help you!
I offer a first-time consultation where I will help you break through whatever is limiting you, so you can experience the things you want in life with ease, flow and joy.
This is a free consultation I offer to people in my community like you – and I hope you will join me. There’s no obligation, you’ll have a clear vision for how to create more joy in your life.
Email me and we’ll set a time.
~Audra~

 

Do you feel like people are taking advantage of you?
Do you feel like people are taking advantage of you?

Do you feel like people are taking advantage of you?

Do you ever feel like you are the only one who has to pick up the slack for everyone else? Maybe you’re someone at work who pulls late nights to finish up. Or, maybe at home, you’re the one who always has to pick up the mess.

Sometimes – if you find this happening to you – you may have a pattern that goes deeper than the cleaning.

This is the case with my client, Chelsea. She came to me for coaching wanting to have more time in her life – more time for herself and more time with her family.

When I asked why she doesn’t think she has time for anything, Chelsea’s surprising response was laundry.

Chelsea admitted, “Folding laundry is a lot! It’s never-ending… and it’s like I don’t have time for anything else when I do the laundry. My husband just goes to bed shortly after dinner… and I get upset that I’m left with the mess at home. Then, I find myself being mad at him the next day — all day long!”

As I listened to Chelsea, I realise that it isn’t just about the laundry. This may be a pattern that shows up in all areas of her life.

“Chelsea, do you ever ask for help?”

Chelsea’s reply, “I think he would help… but I’m not comfortable with it.”

As we coached, we discovered an emotional holdback that was the real reason why Chelsea would pick up unpleasant jobs without ever asking for help.

The truth is, this has been happening at work as well… with emails piling up or even returning phone calls. Whenever she needs things done, she would spend hours doing the work that other people are also responsible for.

Can you relate?

Chelsea recognises that she didn’t have the skill or the habit to ask people to do their part. Previously, she ended up feeling like she was being taken advantage of, when, in fact, she didn’t receive the help she needed.

In the coaching session, she decided to go to work on practising asking someone for help one time that week.

To her surprise, her husband had no problem helping her fold the laundry — in fact, for two times — during the same week she asked for help. Chelsea is also surprised that she feels her husband really cares about her and that he cares about how she feels.

Chelsea began asking for help at work as well. At first, she was scared to do this… and as she became more comfortable, she became happier and started getting her work done faster.

Is there something that you hate doing and has become a habit in your life?

Whatever it is for you, I help my clients to discover what is holding them back. By releasing the tension of your emotional holdback, you’ll discover that you have abilities you didn’t think you had.

Nobody can do this for you.

But as your coach, I can provide a process that will connect you with your strengths and your true capacities.

If there’s something that you’d like to bring into your life, I’d like to help you!

Connect with me via email to book your free consultation today.

~Audra~

 

I have an amazing life.

Have you ever felt that something was holding you back from feeling true joy? It’s a difficult thing to feel – but it doesn’t have to be that way. Let me tell you the story of my client, Annie. Annie came to me with the complaint that she frequently felt sad. She didn’t even feel that she knew how to have fun with her 15-month-old toddler. How could she feel more joy? We started coaching.

As we worked together, Annie started discovering that she already had the skills that would help her feel true joy in her life. One day, she had a breakthrough and said “I got it! I understand what has been holding me back emotionally, my whole life! It’s because I’m a new mom”.

I was shocked to hear this, but as I listened, it all became clear. One morning, on a day between our coaching sessions, she had a realization. Her relationship with her own mom was somewhat strained and she was often sad during her teenage years. For that reason, she had distanced herself from her mom. And now that she herself was a mom, she realized this was triggering feelings of sadness. She was able to make the connection – a connection that had really helped her understand where her emotional block had been.

Since her aha moment, she no longer feels sadness and fatigue. She has now the energy and looks forward to getting up every morning. She has been able to come up with different activities to do and to have fun with her daughter. Furthermore, the discovery she had made through coaching had prompted her to start talking to her own mom.

When we are blocked, we don’t know why we cannot have more joy. Many of us think we know what is blocking us. But here’s what is usually the case: what is blocking you is not what you think it is! We all have emotional holdback that we don’t know we have. Every time we make a transition through the coaching process, we will make a discovery or have an aha moment – the way my client did, being a new mom who is now able to find more joy in life. You never know what you are going to discover. Through these steps, you, too, can discover the full potential to be happy.

Part of my work as a coach is to help my clients to discover how to release the tension from their emotional holdback. Most of us don’t know what is holding us back – but coaching is the most effective way to put it together and discover that connection for yourself. When that happens, my clients feel more happiness, fulfillment and joy.

If you’d like to experience more joy in your day-to-day life, I can help you. And if you’ve never had anyone help you with this, then you really owe it to yourself to try.

I offer people in my community a one-time free consultation. During this free consultation, I will help you find your personal path to rediscovering joy, freedom, and fulfillment in your life. You’ll be amazed at how it works.

Email me and we’ll set a time for your free consultation.

~Audra~